Allergic to small talk

One thing I absolutely despise is ‘small talk’. Unfortunately, it is a necessary part of my job. Being in a service profession, if you don’t try and make ‘pleasant conversation’ with the customer, you’re considered rude. So over the years, I’ve gotten adept at the art of small talk, even though inside I’m dying a little bit each time.


I’m thrown into uncomfortable social situations all day for my job, so that by the time I get home to my spouse/family, I’m in no mood to talk…at least not right away, I usually need some time to wind down from the noise and chaos of the workplace before I feel like talking again.

I realize this might seem silly to most people who don’t have an ‘allergy’ to small talk, but for me, it can suck the energy right out of me, and make me feel like ‘crashing’ for the rest of the night.  So, you might ask, ‘why not get a job where you don’t have to deal with people?’ Sounds simple enough, but like anything, it’s more complicated than that.

Bottom line…I guess I just never really understood the reason to say things just for the sake of conversation, that aren’t necessary, important, or even remotely interesting.

I really don’t want this blog to turn into a ‘rant blog’, but I guess part of explaining how an introvert thinks, is showing the difficult side as well.

Next entry will be more positive…I promise. ๐Ÿ™‚

What, if anything makes you uncomfortable in social situations?

4 thoughts on “Allergic to small talk

  1. Concerning small talk we both are completely different ๐Ÿ™‚ I love small talk and this may come from the fact that I am an ambivert (combination of an introvert and extrovert). And small talk just happens to be on my extrovert side ๐Ÿ˜‰ But I understand where you are coming from. Because my boyfriend is an introvert too and he allergic to small talk as well. And he tells me the same that making small talk just energy-sapping.
    My social situation where I feel uncomfortable is probably having a speech or presentation in front of a group of people…

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